There seems to be many reasons why we bury away our understanding of Oneness. In the end though, I believe it is fear that buries Oneness. Whatever reason starts us down the path, I believe it can be traced back to fear. Fear is the one thing that can make us powerless. It can drive us to make decisions that separate ourselves from others. It can turn life into a “me or them” existence.
Fear buries Oneness. There are potentially many fears for us to deal with, but there are a few that are directly related to our Oneness:
Fear of Ambiguity: We are afraid of not being able to explain ourselves, and so we struggle to find a way to define ourselves. Ask someone “What are you?” and they are most likely to answer by telling you about their job, their spouse, their interests. The question, however, isn’t “who” but “what”. And the answer, to my way of thinking, is simply “I am”. The fear of ambiguity drives us to define ourselves in ways that confine us. When we are one with each other, ambiguity falls away.
Fear of Rejection: This fear starts early on. Looking different from others, acting different from others, or thinking different from others can be extremely stressful early on in life. We are social by nature, and so rejection carries a high price. Maslow has suggested that the need for love and belongingness is a fundamental human motivation. According to Maslow, all humans, even introverts, need to be able to give and receive affection to be psychologically healthy. In order to avoid rejection, we start to try to fit in. We fit in at school by liking what the other kids like, or doing things exactly how the teacher says. Later, we fit in our social circles by “following the herd”. Hopefully, we’ve learned to differentiate ourselves by mid to late high school because if not, we end up choosing a career or next steps in life that align to others expectations of ourselves. When we know we are one, rejection becomes moot. The faster we forget our oneness, the deeper we bury it under the fear of rejection.
Fear of Lack: The fear that we don’t have enough, won’t amount to enough, or simply aren’t enough is a deep seeded fear. My sense is that, in many cases, the more we have, the more we fear. When we measure ourselves based on external factors, lack becomes a concern. Keeping up with the Jones’ is almost a national pastime for some, and it’s a losing game. When we know our oneness, we know that everything we need is here for us now. There can be no lack in oneness.
What fears concern you? How would those fears change if you take on the belief that we are all One?